Dealing With a Crisis In Your Marriage or Relationship

How to save your relationship from falling apart when a catastrophic event has taken place. It may seem like a difficult thing to do, but it can be accomplished. Often, when something horrible happened in the life of a couple the stress ends up being too much to bear. You must then know, or learn, how important it is to save the relationship.


You need to know how to save the relationship when something in the marriage or relationship is falling apart. As example, the two struggle to deal with a crisis in their home. Many times it happens after the death of a loved one or especially a child. It can often happen when there is infidelity or an affair by one party. It could be caused by an accident or natural disaster. It could also be caused by illness to one partner or anything which may cause your world to fall apart.



To save your marriage or relationship from ending, you need to understand certain things. You need to understand that people act and react differently to events. Of course, the most obvious is the differences between how men and women typically deal with events. Many people repress feelings while others are more outward and more obvious in their grieving. Understanding this and accepting it will help each party go a long way in knowing how to save the relationship. Don't expect your mate to react the same way you do.



You also need to know that grief may often brings out the worse in people and negative traits are often exaggerated. Patience is necessary to your understanding why some very negative changes take place in the personality. You also need to be able to see those changes taking place in yourself. Don't allow harmful behavior to dictate this stressful period but be understanding to your partner.



During situations as described above you must consider consulting with a marriage counselor. Marriage counselors will usually be very adept at helping couples struggling through these stressful times. There are places and people you can go to to help you and the your loved one deal with the emotions.



Here are several suggestions to help you get through this stressful times:



You must commit to each other that you are going to work through this together. Be a team player fully supporting each other and understanding the needs of your partner. If at some point, one partner seems weak the other partner must be there to help and shoulder the load.



Grow your support team. Seek out close friends and relatives who will help you through this. There is no need for the two of you to go through this alone. If you can, find a network or a group of people who have gone through similar situations. Remember, there is strength in numbers.



You must find a reason to laugh again. Watch a funny program on TV or a funny movie. If you have a crazy home movie, now is the time for some good laughs. Enjoy the company of fun loving people. At time like this, laughter is the best medicine and it will make you feel better and gives you a break from the weight you carry.



When you have suffered greatly, it doesn't mean that the marriage or relationship has to come to an end. It can be made much stronger if you understand and overcome the stress you have experienced. Always remember, divorce is the last option particularly if there are children involved.